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Simple Living Ideas: Discernment: How Do You Know What to Want?



Discernment is a term used to describe the activity of determining the value and quality of a certain subject or event. Typically, it is used to describe the activity of going past the mere perception of something, to making detailed judgments about that thing. As a virtue, a discerning individual is considered to possess wisdom, and be of good judgement; especially so with regard to subject matter often overlooked by others. (Wikipedia)
Discernment is a key to simple living. If you don’t know what you value, how can you decide what to keep in your life and what to do away with? You can’t simplify until you have narrowed down your priorities. So, what is important to you?
My health is most important to me because I feel that if I am not healthy and fit I can not enjoy my family and friends. What I enjoy doing most with the people in my life is sharing good food and conversation,... occasionally doing this in an interesting location; so yes, travel is important to me. Therefore, when I am deciding on what options to pursue and what objects to possess I ask myself: How will this choice effect my health? Will this help me enjoy family, friends and food more? Do I get to travel? 
I've come to my values mostly through meditation and emotional release work that is focused on tuning into my true feelings. I have spent a lot of time tearing away belief systems I inherited and replacing them with ones that genuinely reflect my thoughts and desires.
How do you determine what is right for you?
The ability to make choices that are best for you has never been harder. The options and availability of everything is greater now than it has ever been; primarily because of the Internet. That is why it is even more important now to spend time getting to know yourself, and deciding on your values...because the choices are vast... and they just keep changing.

Please share with us your process for discovering your values, how do you decide what is right for you?...
I look forward to your comments,
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  1. I think a large part of discerning what you want is knowing what you don't want. I think each of us, both men and women, possess an inate intuition that we are taught to ignore from a young age. A strong gut reaction for or against a decision/life direction is a great indicator of which way to go. Love your blog!

    1. Not ignoring that feeling in your gut that says, "No." I think you're right on!

  2. Great thought provoking post! I'm going to have to think on this, but I really do like what Susan said. There is often a good reason for our "gut" feelings.
    I think taking the time to think about things, instead of spontaneously jumping into something, is always a good idea. Not that spontaneity is bad, because it can be fun, but when it comes to major life decisions, we need to really consider all the options.

    1. There is something to trusting your first spontaneous reaction. Have you ever read the book "BLINK"? It talks about that our first instinct can actually be based on a lot of information.


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