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Why it is Important to Play Games?: Simple Living Ideas

Some of our Favorite Board Games

When we are at our camp in the Adirondack's we don't have a TV, video games, or even a stereo to entertain us. I find we do talk more as a family, and we sit quietly on the deck and listen to the best music ever produced: the sounds of nature. Most evenings though we find ourselves turning to our extensive collection of board games. Yes, playing games are fun but they also are good for all of us. For us old folks games keep our minds sharp. They challenge our memory and our ability to concentrate and strategize. For kids there are so many social skills that are promoted through game playing. I recommend board games because unlike video games you face your opponents which teaches you more about how to read body language. I also think you talk more when you face a person.

Reading Social Cues: This is a extremely important skill to develop when playing games that entail bluffing like Poker. In these games you learn to watch the tiniest twitch of your opponent in hopes that you will figure out their "tell" and know when they are lying. Tell me being able to detect lying is not an important life skill?

Following Directions: You have to listen and pay attention to the structure and rules of the game in order to participate. Being able to follow directions is important for completing school work along with any kind of application you will ever have to fill out.

Sportsmanship: Going along with following directions is developing an ability to play by the rules and to be fair and flexible when the game doesn't move in the direction you want. You learn that being a "good sport" involves giving people the benefit of the doubt, being generous and kind, along with accepting losing without holding a grudge. 

Learning from Failure: I think learning to accept losing is especially important for kids who are growing up in a "trophy for everyone" over praising society. When you submit yourself to a game, you have to accept that you will win occasionally, but a lot of the times you will lose. Kids need to realize that losing does not mean total failure. If you want to get better at the game you learn from your mistakes. You pick up your pieces and  you play the game again until you succeed this is an old fashion skill called: resilience. 

Developing Patience:  You have to wait to take your turn and not interrupt another player while he is making his move. You have to wait for others to finish their play, which sometimes can seem like an eternity when you have a really good move you want to make. You also need to learn to wait for the best time to play a move. You learn timing in strategic games which is so important in life if you want to optimize your opportunities for success.

Strategic Thinking: Kids and many adults live very impulsively. Some games like Chess and RISK require a person to think several moves ahead. Long term thinking skills, planning are required to really master these games. 

Negotiation Skills: Some of the really great new board games like Settlers of Catan and Cargo Noir along with classic games like Monopoly require players to make deals with other players in order to get the resources they need to win the game. These games are fantastic little micro worlds were one gets the chance to see the pros and cons of sharing and trading personal resources.

Being Oppositional without being Enemies: I think this skill is probably one of the most needed today because we live in such a polarized time socially and politically. In a game your best friend can play the role of your opponent. You try to defeat this dearly loved person in a game - but is it personal? No.

Doing this type of role playing helps us to remember that we all have different opinions and positions on may issues but we are all just playing our role, our part in the larger game. 

We don't have to hate a person because their viewpoint differs from us, that's what tolerance is about. To tolerant does not mean to like, it means to put up with an opinion that is different from our own opinion. So, if you can put up with your best friend destroying your empire in a greedy pursuit of your wealth, maybe you can put up with your next door neighbor's viewpoints - even if they are very different from your own, because he is basically a nice person who just happens to be playing the game a little differently than you.

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  1. Great post. I agree completely!
    Have a great day

  2. These are some great life lessons we can learn from playing games! I grew up playing games with my family all the time. We now have our own collection, we just need to make the time to play and teach our kids how to play.

    1. Maybe when you unpack and get settled again. It does take patience for adults to teach the games to the kids too.

  3. What a lovely post Diane, and so true; in this high tech age, people hardly talk - and I take pride with the fact that I can't text so I just call!:) I loved your wonderful reminders of the value of games and taking time to get together and enjoy each other's company -no matter how different we are. One of the best things we can give our children is our time and enjoying that precious time together. thanks for the wonderful post:)

    1. Thank you very much for really getting where I'm coming from.


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